Each and every one of us harbours a series of thought patterns that shape our reactions to life’s circumstances. This internal dialogue, also known as personal commentary, influences our view of the world and emotions. A valuable approach to nurturing optimism, hope, and joy is by intentionally embracing positive self-affirmations on a daily basis.
As we grow older, many of us may become aware of these ingrained negative self-talk patterns. We often recall criticising remarks from our upbringing, whether from parents, siblings, or teachers. Additionally, negative interactions with peers may have further lowered our self-esteem. These negative messages echo in our minds over time, fostering feelings of anger, fear, guilt, and despair.
How to Foster Positive Self-Talk
Keeping a Gratitude Journal: List five things you’re thankful for every day. This will help you appreciate the positives in your life more.
Stopping the Comparison Game – Constant comparison will only fill your mind with negativity and a diminished sense of self. Instead, focus on acknowledging your own strengths and uniqueness without concerning yourself with others.
Using Positive Affirmations – Place sticky notes around your home and workspace with positive affirmations, such as “I am unique because…” or “I am proud of myself for…” You can also use uplifting quotes to inspire you throughout your day.
Surrounding Yourself with Positive People – Surround yourself with peers who uplift you and have a positive outlook on life. They will bring out the best in you while giving you feedback for personal growth.
Listing Your Desired Goals – Writing your goals on paper makes them tangible and increases your commitment to them. Using a planner to track your short- and long-term goals can make it easier to appreciate your daily progress.
Getting on the Move – Exercise boosts your mood and confidence. Notice how you feel after a great workout, which is all thanks to the rise in endorphins.
Helping Others – It reminds you how much your contribution matters to make a difference in someone else’s life. It fosters a sense of belonging, which holds great value for your overall well-being.
Visualising Success – Imagine yourself accomplishing your goals and relishing the satisfaction of reaching your desired destination. Our brains cannot distinguish between real and imagined success, so dare to dream big!
Key Takeaways
Positive self-talk isn’t about deceiving oneself; it’s about acknowledging what is real, both in our external and inner world. One universal truth is that imperfection is inevitable. Expecting a flawless performance from oneself or others is unrealistic. Thus, anticipating a life of challenges without any sense of joy is also unrealistic.
In moments of adversity, positive self-talk drives you towards healing and growth. It’s a practice that enables you to find hope and joy even during the most challenging periods in life by guiding you towards a more resilient you!
Marlene Agius is a Trauma-Informed Coach and Gestalt Psychotherapist. She supports adults in navigating their life challenges through a therapeutic journey of heightened awareness, compassion and self-acceptance. She has experience working in the mental health field, particularly with issues of anxiety, depression, loss, challenging relationships, trauma and major life transitions.
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