Trigger Warning: This article discusses rape, which may be triggering for some readers. Please prioritise your mental and emotional well-being when choosing to read on.
Let’s talk about something really tough but super important – rape. It’s one of those things we often shy away from discussing, but it’s crucial we break the silence. Whether this is something you’ve gone through or you know someone who has, this article is a safe space for you. We’re here to support, inform, and empower you.
The Harsh Reality of Rape
Rape is a devastating experience, one that far too many women face. Globally, statistics reveal a troubling picture. However, it’s important to remember that behind every statistic is a person with a story, feelings, and a life that’s been profoundly affected.
In Malta, just like in so many other places, it often stays hidden, with many cases going unreported, which is heartbreaking. However, there are lots of reasons why women choose not to report it – fear, shame, or sometimes just not knowing if they’ll be taken seriously. Let’s be clear: if you or someone you know didn’t report it, that’s not your fault. These decisions are deeply personal and can be incredibly hard.
The Many Faces of Rape
One aspect of rape that’s especially challenging to talk about is that the perpetrator isn’t always a stranger. In many cases, the rapist is someone the victim knows – it could be a family member, an ex-spouse, a friend, or an acquaintance. In fact, research shows that most rapes are committed by persons known to the victim, and very often, these go unreported. This can add a layer of betrayal and confusion to the trauma. It’s important to recognise that rape is rape, no matter who the perpetrator is. The violation and the pain are just as real when the aggressor is someone known to the victim.
If It Happens to You
First off, if you’ve been through this, we want to give you the biggest virtual hug. Remember, none of this is your fault. Rape is always the responsibility of the perpetrator, not the victim. Here are some steps you can take:
- Find Somewhere Safe: Your safety is everything. Get to a place where you feel secure.
- Medical Check-Up: Even if you’re not hurt on the outside, seeing a doctor is a good idea. They’re there to help you, not judge, and they can ensure you’re physically okay.
- To Report or Not: This is 100% your call. If you decide to talk to the police, know that it’s their job to help you.
- Lean on Someone: Whether it’s a friend, family, or someone like a counsellor, find someone you can open up to. Victim Support Malta is a great place to turn to for confidential, understanding help.
- Be Patient with Yourself: Healing doesn’t happen overnight. It’s totally okay to have a rollercoaster of feelings. Be gentle with yourself.
If It Happens to Someone You Know
If someone trusts you enough to share their story, it’s like them handing you a piece of their heart. Here’s how to hold it carefully:
- Listen, Just Listen: Let them talk, and just be there to hear them out. Sometimes, that’s all they need.
- Believe Them: This is so important. Make sure they know you’re on their side.
- Help, Don’t Push: Ask them how you can be there for them rather than telling them what they should do.
- Their Choices Matter: Whether they want to go to the doctor, talk to the police, or neither – it’s their decision, and that’s okay.
- Nudge Towards Professional Help: If you think they need more support, you can suggest places like therapists or support helplines, but always gently and on their terms.
Moving Forward
Dealing with rape is tough, and we encourage you to seek extra support. In Malta, there are professionals who get what you’re going through. We’ll be more than happy to help you find the right fit for you. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Let’s work together to create a culture where this topic is not taboo, where victims feel supported and believed, and where perpetrators are held accountable. By talking openly and compassionately about rape, we take the first step towards healing and change.
Useful Contacts
If you or someone you know needs support, here are some contacts in Malta that can help:
- Victim Support Malta: Provides support to victims of crime, including those affected by rape and sexual assault. Website | Phone: +356 2122 8333
- Appoġġ: A national agency offering a range of support services, including a 24/7 support line. Website | Support line: 179
- Women’s Rights Foundation: Offers legal advice and psychological support for women in distress. Website | Phone: +356 79708 615
- Malta Police Force: To report a crime, including sexual assault. Website | Phone: +356 21224 001
Remember, reaching out for help is a courageous step towards healing and empowerment. You are not alone. We stand with you.
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Rebecca Galea is the marketing and web design expert for the Women for Women Foundation. She’s a single mum of two and has always been passionate about empowering and helping women in any way she can.
