When tragedy strikes and someone takes their own life, a wave of uncertainty washes over society.
But why? She was always laughing and joking! She was so lucky – why did she do that? She had such a good husband! And those poor kids – how could she abandon them like that? How could she be so self-centered? There’s so much help out there – why didn’t she get it if she needed it?
Endless questions.
The truth is, most probably she did ask for help. Most probably she even begged for it. Yet no one’s eyes were open enough to see the silent tears in her eyes. No one’s ears were alert enough to hear her muffled cries. No one’s arms welcomed her desperation without conditions.
And most importantly, no one knows what happens behind closed doors. What may look like an easy life to us may actually be a private trauma to someone else. The only way we can even begin to understand is by trying to see life through that person’s eyes – to imagine what their feelings might truly be.
So how does her mind perceive her life at breaking point? Let’s look deep into her thoughts…
While this is a fictional suicidal letter, and any resemblance to real families or situations is coincidental, it reflects the hidden reality behind many complex family situations.
Here is a woman working full-time while trying to be a full-time mother too. She is clearly struggling with depression and exhaustion. Her words show how unappreciated she feels. She lives like a married single mum, trying to do it all alone. Societal expectations are drastically weighing her down. She has been conditioned by a narcissistic partner to believe he deserves everything while she is worth nothing. He sees her sinking day by day, yet offers no support – leaving her to struggle alone.
To top it all, we are also witnessing the struggle that many women face – losing promotions and career advances to their male counterparts.
However, this article isn’t about the situations touched upon. It’s about how an emotionally exhausted mind fogs our vision and convinces us that without us, the world would be a better place for everyone.
Open your eyes and see. Open your ears and listen. Open your heart and feel.
When you notice someone struggling, even if it’s only a hunch, even if there are no obvious signs, reach out.
Your presence may be the lifeline they need.
If you are experiencing any issues related to mental health, do not be afraid to speak out. Contact Richmond Foundation by phone on 1770 or through their chat feature (Mon-Fri 8am-8pm & Sat till 4pm) or on 1579 after mentioned time. You may also contact Kellimni on https://kellimni.com/, who offer chat, email or messaging support.
Do you have an experience you’d like to share with us at Wham, either in your name or anonymously? Contact us! We’d love to hear from you!
Claire Galea is a self-employed holistic care practitioner with formal training in nursing. She is passionate about patient-centered care and public education on health and social issues. Committed to lifelong learning, Claire enjoys exploring a broad range of topics, from spirituality to contemporary affairs.
Claire is also passionate about spreading awareness on the negative effects that domestic abuse leaves on its victims’ mental, emotional, social and physical wellbeing. She is the author of two downloadable ebooks, namely Heal Your Life Forever and 5 Simple Steps To Creating The Life Of Your Dreams.
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